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Determination Is The Key

Usually being a beginner to the world of blogging, I bypass the daily prompts.

Today the suggested prompt word ‘harmonize’ sparked interest. It’s a word I’ve become used to hearing the past few months since resuming piano lessons two months ago.

Although away from the music instrumental world for a period of time, I returned with a passion fueled with desire to learn more and complete both of my Adult All-In-One Course Level 1 books.

Previously I had gone off course when I requested to learn certain artists’ tunes and of course I can’t forget those beautiful Christmas carols.

I chose without the instructor’s request to review the manual page by page starting with Page 1. This extra-curricular activity already paid off in the short term when this past week I mastered quite a difficult piece over a two-week period.

The instructor’s smile and input were a most heartwarming reward for all the effort I’d  put into self-discipline practice.

Harmony in piano is defined as playing notes together. It accompanies melody which is made up of notes played separately. I attained my goal to play both hands together in perfect harmony.

This senior citizen is quite pleased with herself and looking forward to the next challenge amidst the 30 pages shy of completion of that first level book.

In life one is never too old to learn.

March 1st Mindset: Game Over

After reading eulogies on social media of two different men whom I know for fact

were underserving of positive statements written, I wondered if I had the the wrong

concept with regard to life or somehow had turned into a ‘Negative Nancy’.

I refrained from comment with a like, care and certainly not a love emoji. Rather I

bypassed the post and offered up no reply.

After all common sense to me is not build up the character of a man who left a

loving wife with four children, fled to the opposite side of the country, remarried,

started another family yet offered up not one cent for those four children nor the wife

left behind.

My memory storage bank still contains countless flashbacks of many difficult

days the woman endured fending for herself at such a young age

before a much younger man entered her life and helped raise those

children. In my opinion he was more deserving of the praise.

Talk about degrees of forgiveness!!

I thought – wow it’s fine to do ‘whatever’ and be remembered in

such a good light by two of four children you never met only recently

through FaceTime.

This is but one incident this past week that boggled my mind.

Curious, I looked up the definition of ‘Negative Nancy’ and found the

following warning signs:

  1. Constantly worrying – yes I worry a lot; however, I don’t think
    it’s overdone.

  2. World’s great pessimist – no since I offer up lots of support and positive
    compliments to family members, friends and virtual friends
    .
  3. Tendency to be oversensitive – ‘yes’ and have already learned
    behavioral patterns to combat those feelings
    .

4. You don’t go outside your comfort zone – not true since I’m open
to trying new hobbies – traveling alone (dislike – no choice).

5. Dwell on the past – years of family history in making don’t up and
disappear. Chasing out intrusive thoughts daily is tiresome though.

6. Trouble maintaining healthy relationships – that’s a tricky one to
address since each person’s mindset is quite different.


7. Not excited about the future – well when so much has been far
removed from your life, although you weren’t responsible for the
actions of others, it can be difficult to plan ahead taking into
consideration the age factor.


8. Frequently judge others – not exactly – rather listen, observe
and keep opinions to myself.


9. Don’t accept a compliment.
For years I’d always say ‘Thank you’ followed by ‘but’. I changed
as I aged and accept compliments freely.

10. Focus on problems – not solutions – doubtful since I’m constantly
in search of remedies (not always medical ones).


Overall I realize I’m far from Ms. Perfect and people can form their
own opinion(s) (good or not-so-good). It’s me who has to be happy with
herself.


Currently I’ve learned to treat people the same way they treat me – a
blessing in disguise
for me.



Valentine’s Day – 2021

Compassionate man
Earlier this week text me
Hospitalized complications exam
Worries, intrusive thoughts outcome be

Words written read great concern
Amid penned ones usual pleasantness
Overall picture painted thus far bit grim
Five years platonic friends shared secrets life’s messes

Questions posed self remain unanswered
Perhaps, what ifs dance for hours through thou head
Prayers unspoken hopeful quality medical services rendered
Unfathomable good-hearted soul alone lies day ‘n night hospital bed

Valentine’s day amorous couples fortunate observations
Beautiful aromatic flowers, boxed chocolates dinner for two
Types love Bible states four, psychology today states seven
Five years shared goodwill thankful ne’er led to precarious situation

Today’s morn’s text contents words inclusive quality time together
Fact resembles deceitful husband reason never consider love relationship
Decade alone still constant overthink feel down the road both deserve better
Proceed with caution unwilling sabotage priceless half-decade friendship




Truthful Tuesday: February 9th 2021

A mixture of preparedness and weekly prompts is the norm I look forward

to monthly.

As the holidays approached I began to write less and less.

Looking back I admit my lack of desire was due to a combination

of factors (personal and Pandemic-related).

I fully understand writer’s burnout and empathize with the alternate

host of this prompt.

Without questions to answer I found myself left with two choices

(participate and wing it or bypass).

I made my selection and since this prompt is one to tell the truth (not fib) I’ll

share a few enlightening moments from my past few days.

The 5th of this month was the 5th anniversary of my previous husband’s

passing (RIP).

I’d read the nice tribute our youngest daughter had posted on Facebook

only that evening mentioned ‘nothing’ to her.

Those involved in far from amicable divorces understand long-lasting

feelings experienced by the scorned woman.

The following night during our usual late night phone conversation

she brought up the topic some refer to as the elephant in the room.

I sat. I listened to her explanation. She’d included events

experienced with both biological parents.

It appears I missed her good intentions when I basically scanned

the post that morn.

Before she closed the topic she said, ‘Mom focus on the ‘good’

memories from all those years.

This suggestion undoubtedly for me will be hard to follow through

with on a constant basis; however, I vowed to try my best to honor

her request as ‘yes’ I admit it made perfect sense.

An epiphany?? Possibly!

Imagine how I felt this morn, a few days later, when I read a poem

written by a friend, a published Poetess. Nearing the end the

line below, one I resonate with, jumped out at me.

She’d penned:

“Living with grief means I have lived with much love.”

https://pensitivity101.wordpress.com/2021/02/09/truthful-tuesday-9th-february/




Share Your World – Feb. 8th 2021

Prompt: Questions and Answer

  1. In your opinion do May/December romances ever work?
    Ans: Age isn’t always a determining factor of forever after. If the younger
    person in the relationship is mature enough and both individuals share
    lots of common interests then my opinion is ‘yes’.

2. What physical action or gesture do you find romantic?
Ans: Those impromptu moments shared alone together – a stolen kiss
shared laughter.

3. What is your idea of a romantic dinner?
Ans: Sitting across the table from the partner I love (restaurant or
at home) under dimmed light with candles glowing, fresh florals on
the table, a tasty meal plus shared dessert and intelligent conversation


4. Is ‘love’ a real ‘thing’ or merely a physical chemical response and
brain activity pulling our emotional strings?

Ans: Love is real when you both finish each other’s sentences.
The chemical response happens when the heart finds the right one.

Gratitude section:

Question: How do you show your loved ones that you love them?
Ans: Daily ‘I Love You’, unexpected surprises, enjoying the good
times and being supportive during the bad ones.

https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.com/2021/02/08/share-your-world-2-8-2021/



Adverbs – Usage

Common knowledge readers find news articles informative, bothersome, rhetoric

and on occasion humorous.

The first three categories from different printed publications constitute the

abundance of news selections.

It’s quite obvious to the average daily reader how little humor is found betwixt

penned lines unless the cartoon section is their first choice.

Laughter is good for the soul and I managed a few chuckles over the weekend

when I brought up an article beginning with the adverb ‘allegedly’.

I wonder if the layout editor of the popular newspaper created space for

this unbelievable hilarious read or by job description inserted it to fill up

a page.

Either – or – twas rather funny to envision the event defined below.

A voyeur, referenced as peeping Tom, had been arrested on scene of

a gym down south after falling through the ceiling of the women’s

locker room.

It seemed he received quite a bit more than he’d bargained for when

the locker room’s ceiling gave way and he fell approximately ten feet.

Sadly, he fell onto a 70-year old woman who thankfully attained no

injuries.

As a former gym member for years, I can attest woman aren’t exactly

weak and this woman along with several other patrons apprehended

the deviant prior to the arrival of law enforcement.

By definition a peeping Tom is referred to as a man who secretly observes

women undressing and derives sexual pleasure.

Arrested on site yet article states ‘allegedly’ since although accused he’s

yet to be proven guilty and convicted.

Yes, the good citizen has to stand by and watch how the system works or

fails.

Innocent until proven guilty!

Laughable since few people without malintent hide in the ceiling of gym

locker rooms.