Throughout life from time to time we all interact and befriend those who later turn out to be backstabbers.
Their true colors come to light when or if one betrays us. We become an innocent victim of unbelievable, questionable behavior by a person we trusted and shared friendship.
Our first instinct is to try and resolve the conflict. In awe we begin to analyze ourselves wondering what’s behind our friend’s newfound irrational actions.
Reality is we may have done absolutely nothing wrong to set them down the path of self-destruction of our friendship.
There’s a long list of reasons why some desire to hurt others and often we have no clue since who would think a friend could be so fake. Obviously their own shortcomings are to blame.
Perhaps a few counseling sessions would be beneficial only if asked the backstabber usually would refuse and remain in denial. The 100% validity persona is shown via their words and actions.
If reasonable communication fails then it’s time to walk away from this toxic person with your ego intact. After all this friendship, whatever the duration, appears to have been based on ill intentions and lies.
It’s important to never identify oneself by others’ maltreatment of us. Life is hard work and hard work sometimes hurts.
I think we get caught up in this vicious cycle due to childhood teachings where words such as honesty and trust played an important role in our learning process.
I’m not perfect. I’m not fake.