A wakeup call for me, although late in life, was still a
The genuine attempt to help a person in AA recovery
led me via his sudden rejection down the path of self-
I qualify as a co-dependent, a label I always thought
pertained to people with addictions.
The factors in place were ones I thought were healthy.
A person with Type A personality demands perfection
of themselves and needs to understand it’s okay to be
The two-letter word ‘NO’ seems not to be in their long
list of vocabulary words because they fear rejection.
He or she needs to learn it’s impossible to fix everything
in life and realize it’s not their responsibility.
Bingo – spot on!
This is where the wall of boundaries started to exist.
I began to decline requests void now of feeling any
pangs of guilt.
Sometimes a process appears to be an easy one only
once you actually practice it there’s a strong possibility
of negative repercussions from fake friends, even family
To feel loved I allowed myself to be taken advantage of
to the point of resentment.
Wow – another wakeup call.
The difference now, based on work done on the self-love
journey, is the perception of how I view myself. Those who
suddenly chose to become absent from my life when I
politely declined their requests most likely were never
truly in my corner, rather mere takers.
The decisions how I prioritize my time at this stage of
life need to be favorable to me.
To set the record straight I intend to treat true
friends in the same mannerisms as before while
I slowly remove from my life those who possess
Although a rude awakening, the boundaries I set
in place have actually brought me peace of mind.