Tag: forever learning

Setting Boundaries

A wakeup call for me, although late in life, was still a

wakeup call.

The genuine attempt to help a person in AA recovery

led me via his sudden rejection down the path of self-

discovery.

I qualify as a co-dependent, a label I always thought

pertained to people with addictions.

The factors in place were ones I thought were healthy.

Wrong!

A person with Type A personality demands perfection

of themselves and needs to understand it’s okay to be

perfectly imperfect.

The two-letter word ‘NO’ seems not to be in their long

list of vocabulary words because they fear rejection.

He or she needs to learn it’s impossible to fix everything

in life and realize it’s not their responsibility.

Bingo – spot on!

This is where the wall of boundaries started to exist.

I began to decline requests void now of feeling any

pangs of guilt.

Sometimes a process appears to be an easy one only

once you actually practice it there’s a strong possibility

of negative repercussions from fake friends, even family

members.

To feel loved I allowed myself to be taken advantage of

to the point of resentment.

Wow – another wakeup call.

The difference now, based on work done on the self-love

journey, is the perception of how I view myself. Those who

suddenly chose to become absent from my life when I

politely declined their requests most likely were never

truly in my corner, rather mere takers.

The decisions how I prioritize my time at this stage of

life need to be favorable to me.

To set the record straight I intend to treat true

friends in the same mannerisms as before while

I slowly remove from my life those who possess

narcissistic traits.

Although a rude awakening, the boundaries I set

in place have actually brought me peace of mind.

Lost Late in Life

Five plus years ago when I started this blog I believed in my heart

placing words on paper void of all the personal details would

somehow be beneficial.

To a high degree I found blogging quite therapeutic.

In addition to my own articles I quite enjoyed participating in

daily / weekly prompts plus the interaction from other bloggers.

Yes, I considered myself an official member of Blogosphere.

And then along came the Pandemic . . .

Life became 10 times more difficult – maintain my sanity being ‘alone’,

I managed to keep busy and adapt to all the constant change.

Mid-may I interacted with an individual who was 6 plus months into AA recovery.

A child of an alcoholic I did my best to help – daily affirmations and texting – all

good – all above board = 100 % genuine.

Then either Facebook malfunctioned or said individual made decision no

more interaction (shut down).

It seems I didn’t take this type of rejection too well and best description of

my own feelings about this situation:

‘evolution of near becoming unglued’.

My entire life’s journey started to play out – the good, the bad and the ugly.

Confused, scared and fairly numb (still functional) I sought out reading material

a sudden need for info on what was happening to me so late in life.

It took awhile and then a book appeared – a book written for me – one all

about my sordid dysfunctional life.

The hard part was to admit to myself – like addicts do in the 12-step program.

It seems I’m a ‘Codependent’ and from time to time I’ll write about

the work I’m doing to overcome and hopefully find peace in my life.

You who I tried to help still follow me on here so I’ll say

“Thank you” for sending me down a new path which when

I arrive at the finish line should find me in a better place within

my personal life.

No bitter feelings toward you who I considered a friend rather prayers for

continued success on your own day-to-day journey

God Bless!!

Qualities of a Good Writer

I find it absolutely amazing how one’s mind wanders throughout the day.

Take for instance this morning my desire to participate in a prompt challenge

became sidetracked, dissuaded when finally I found the correct pingback only

site stated ‘not secure’.

That worded notification to me automatically became a ‘red’ flag.

A much worse case scenario would be my anti-virus software showing a

large red-bordered circle telling me ‘not safe’ which translates to quickly

get off.

Since I awoke to freezing temperatures and found myself with ample time

before an appointment I chose to write – offer up a blog contribution today.

All was not lost as my mind wandered to a totally different direction.

Question ahead faced: “What are the qualities of a good writer?”

Time to research a bit on the web.

In essence I was quite pleased by the one and only article I read, absorbing

the contents while taking notes and hanging onto every word.

The writer broke it down into ‘six’ categories.

Attention to detail was the first quality addressed and ‘yes’ I passed as

I’m constantly observing and taking notes (mental and hand-written).

Discipline was next on the list with reference to frustration in regard

to rewrites, edits and improvements.

Although setting a time schedule for writing was not inclusive it’s a

well-known fact – one I need to address.

Clarity, strong vocabulary and open to changes are all areas of

writing I’m both familiar with and practiced since the start of my

blogging journey a little over five years ago.

The last category on the list was ‘passion for reading’ and to be

honest with myself I believe I need to prioritize more as we learn

so much from reading another’s works.

I’m extremely thankful my mind directed me elsewhere and now

it’s time to proofread before I publish today’s post while arguing

with the newest writing foe ‘the block editor’.

Sensationalism Sells Newspapers

Years ago I enrolled in a nightly Journalism course offered by my area’s local

newspaper.

Two editors – two classes – one night each week – seeking freelance writers

This wasn’t my first nor last class in Journalism; however, it was the cheapest

one – price ‘FREE’. I learned a lot about how sensationalism sells newspapers.

Today amidst the world of high tech each morning people worldwide are able

to access the internet and with a click of their mouse select articles to read or

second option trash.

Since blogging my vocabulary increased tenfold as daily new words appear

before my eyes, words never seen before.

Today’s word of the day was ‘endemic’.

As one can spend endless hours utilizing their computer then walk away in

sheer frustration, I carefully pick and choose what to read based on article

titles.

I then scan the paragraphs since the majority of journalists take forever to

make a point.

Sadly, the newest vocabulary word spoken by my country’s highest paid

Federal employee didn’t exactly leave me with an optimistic impression.

Endemic defines as a state of existence where the population faces living forever

with a virus circulating at low levels while only on occasion causing severe illness.

In a different news article I read the FDA’s (Federal Drug Administration’s)

statement how the country’s health status by early June will have changed

dramatically BETTER.

There are times I feel simillar to a high school student seeking facts – info for

a long-term assignment.

If you are in my age category you’ll remember usage of index cards,

hand-written notes.

Tis much easier now surfing on your computer screen until if lucky you find the

correct hyperlinks or YouTube videos.

I wonder what portion of the country knows who is listed as the highest paid

Federal employee.

Shocking, his last stated salary in year 2019 was $18K more than the President.

Interesting information.

As with politics I shall keep my personal feelings to myself as I deem it unwise

to share neither negative opinions nor feelings.



Writing Prompt Day 17 – Battling Borborygmus

Poised woman
Sudden embarrass
Skunk smell
Firecracker gas

Cruciferous
Vegetarian meal
Create gurgling sounds 
Stomach growls surreal 

Flatulence
Sulfur-smelling stench
Straight-faced colleagues 
Before long foul aroma quench 

Conversation switch
Friend's vehicle repairs
Bad catalytic convertor smell
Similar odor emit vanish fresh air

Subtle approach 
Gaseous woman quiet demeanor arose
Snail-pace stroll thru conference room double doors 
Destination restroom certain though be not to powder her nose.

© 2019 June Quintin
July 2019 Writing Prompts

Writing Prompt Day 14: Writing Weirdos

Chosen photo
Image description fore'er me
Emotional prison n'er be escapee

Creative hobby
Free 30-day challenge media born
Thankful attendee gal sad 'n forlorn

Years therapy
Professional expensive
Discover penned words curb feelings apprehensive 

Writing whenever
Trail thoughts flow
Newfound places self go

Poetic preference
ABC, Acrostic, Haiku, Tanka
Rhyming ends this portion "Thank Ya".

GREAT RESPECT FOR:

Writers
Literary formats
Contributors various
Hermit-like thru gregarious  

Wordsmiths
Skillful
Expressionists
Fluent linguistics.

© 2019 June Quintin

July 2019 Writing Prompts